new relationship rewrite method-can you convince him to come back? (No sorry), the one thing stopping him from coming back to you.
Once
your private line of communication is up and running, it’s time to step things
up a new relationship rewrite methodnotch. Many brilliant people have talked about the power of vulnerability,
including Berne brown who has recently popularized the concept while helping us
to understand its true power. But I have a more specific purpose in mind for
you.
If
you are honest about goals you care about, and the struggles that block your
way, it naturally triggers his hero instinct. It increases the chances that he
will want to come to your rescue in big or small ways. As for men, being
someone’s hero is romantic in ways that are hard for women to understand. It
tugs at an ancient instinct all of us men share.
It
sounds cruel, but I mean it metaphorically. We all want someone to have our
back. We all crave validation more than we are willing to admit. And guess what? Your private line of
communication is the perfect opportunity for him to complain about anyone or
anything that’s getting in his way.
The
respect principle is the main topic of the downloadablerelationship course that made me famous as a relationship coach. Thousands
of women have taken my course and used therespect principle to bring out the best in their man.
Simply
put, men confuse the emotional sensations they get from love and respect. And
if forced to choose, they would rather feel respected than loved, so when the
frustrated text arrives, recognize it as the golden opportunity it is.
Because we will do anything for someone who
validates our frustration and takes our side when we are feeling insecure, give
him the impression that you hold him in high esteem relative to other men. He
will love you for it even if he is not ready to admit it.
Waiting
is hard. Especially when you fear his heart may be taken by another woman at
any minute. But feeling pressured to fix things fast is one of the worst
culprits when it comes to my clients pushing men into a corner and
inadvertently triggering his instinct to fight or flee.
Don’t
let time pressure be a master. Instead, make time your servant. Make it work
for you. The key to accomplishing that is to recognize that time is on your
side. He is already pulled away from you.
That’s
done. Now you need time on your side because it works day and night to
gradually break down the emotional walls he built up against the idea of
getting back together with you.
Give
a man and a woman enough time together, and something’s bound to spark romantic
feelings eventually. Give it enough time, and your private line of
communication will eventually present you with an opportunity to see each other
again face to face.
When
that opportunity arises to spend time in person, here is what you are going to
do. Make long, deep eye contact. Less talking, more silence. Silence carries
great power between lovers. It speaks louder than words and often evokes
emotion in ways that bypass the barriers of words.
Plus,
sustaining eye contact while thinking loving thoughts towards him will cause
your pupils to dilate, Humans subconsciously notice this small changes it
triggers reciprocal feelings of attraction.
So
use periods of long, sustained eye contact. Make him wonder what you are
thinking. Let his imagination do the work. While you are at it, it helps to
wear something new and different.
It
helps to differentiate the woman from his past and the woman standing in front
of him now. If you have the opportunity, show up in something he has never seen
you wear before.
I
understand your situation is unique. Some of my suggestions may not apply.
Despite that, I hope you will find opportunities to use this understanding of
the difference between convincing and evoking the right feelings in the man you
love. To your happy future, I would love
to help you rekindle the romance with your ex. If you would like to see how follow this new relationship rewrite methodlink or checkout my presentation clickhere.
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