talking dirty to your man-why ED doesn’t spell the END to mutual satisfaction?

We have all giggled at the goofy commercials but ED is a problem that affects nearly every relationship at one time or another. Anindya munshi offers up some advice on the talking dirty to your man topic. Hi anindya, I met the love of my life at age 59 and we are now engaged, he is 58 and I am 60.

We are both fit, healthy and look much younger than our years. But we have a sexual problem, one that is very common to many. My sweet heart has erectile dysfunction. I bought medication for him but it hasn’t worked.

He goes above and beyond to satisfy me but I think it’s a bit of overkill. I get exhausted and so wiped out from aggressive oral and mutual stimulation sometimes twice a day but definitely every day. I have discussed this with him, and he tries to slow down a bit but goes right back after a few days.

I tried explaining that, if he was able to perform regularly, he could NEVER keep up a schedule like that. Any suggestion for me? Wow that is wonderful to have such a partner so committed to making sure you are sexually satisfied.

However ouch, what you describe would be a bit of over kill for most women. Your lady bits are the most sensitive part of your body and is home to over 8000 nerve endings all packed into one very small area. It’s pretty common to need some downtime after a round of focused stimulation.

Plus, a climax itself can be emotionally as well as physically draining. ED or erectile dysfunction issue in a relationship I definitely encourage you to explain to him directly. Too much attention in that one glorious can equal a lot of discomfort for you.

An important thing for you to understand as well is that ED can be a blow to his self esteem. For so many guys, his entire identity as a man is connected to his penis in some manner. And combine that with how much of his sexual self worth comes from pleasing his woman…well, when the little guy isn’t cooperating, it can be devastating.

His over- eagerness to make certain you are satisfied in the big O department is like an effort to compensate for the ED and also to boost his confidence that he knows he satisfies you The problem is that it sound like in all of his effort to focus on you, he has forgotten to check in and make sure you are enjoying yourself.

One question I have is whether you have tried more than just one type of ED medication? Because, like with so many medical and health issues, it can take some trial and error to find the right dosage or type of medicine that works. It definitely encourages you both to not give up.

Now back to your uncomfortable situation… my suggestion is take climaxing off the table for a defined period of time, like say for a week or two. Tell him instead of focusing on you reaching climax, you are both going to focus on enjoying the pleasure of sensual physical touch like kissing, massage, exploring other erogenous zones beside genitals. I am telling this because sex and intimacy are some much more than intercourse and climaxing.

ED or Erectile dysfunction and how to handle it?- you could play with different sensations using massage oil, ice cubes, soft fabrics etc. just enjoy taking turns running these items across different parts of your body and enjoy how it feels.

You can also take long baths or showers together where you wash each other’s hair and soap each other bodies. Basically, get in touch with things that feel wonderful and loving and sensual to remind each other that there is more to your bedroom life than neither region stimulation.

Another fun idea is to enjoy a supercharged make out session. Just like back you were teenagers. You could drive the car to a place like the beach or to a drive in move if you live near one that still operates and kiss like crazy.

All of these activities are mutually pleasurable. You will probably discover a slower pace and things that feel good you would either never imagined or had forgotten. And that gives you a new menu of options to choose from down the road.

Once the no climax period is over with, you can reincorporate pleasure down there for him. Just encourage that slower pace and tenderness. In the program the language of desire we teach you over 30 fun techniques that amp up the intimacy in any relationship. There is an entire section devoted to what to do if there are obstacles to overcome your sex life. Do you have a talking dirty to your man question you would like me to answer? Head over to my face book page and ask away and for that visit language ofdesire.com.